Rekindle Romance After Kids: 5 Sizzling Tricks to Bring Back That Lovin’ Feeling
When you add babies to the mix, it’s like the spark of romance just kinda… disappears. Between diaper blowouts and chasing after toddlers all day, it’s no wonder your hubby doesn’t exactly scream “kissing material” anymore. But don’t worry, because bringing that lovin’ feeling back is totally possible!
You can absolutely keep the flames of your romantic relationship still burning bright after kids by making those little efforts to connect and prioritize each other.
So many couples grow apart after having kids. Between lack of sleep and packed schedules, it’s easy to forget about those fancy date nights and all that mushy love stuff. But keeping that connection alive? So important for a happy family!
There are so many fun ways to bring that romance back.
Try new things together, leave sweet notes for each other, talk or make out while the kids are sleeping.
Even the littlest efforts can make you feel close again.
Key Takeaways
Make time for the two of you regularly to reconnect and have fun together.
Show affection in little ways like hugs, kisses, and kind words.
Work together as a team to parent and uplift each other.
Rediscovering Each Other
Babies can turn broken relationship between you and hubby into complete strangers. But don’t worry, mama! There are so many fun ways to reconnect and bring back a little stuff that lovin’ feeling.
Let’s dive into some easy tricks to bring that romance back and make your relationship sizzle again.
Nurturing Love Languages
Do you and hubby ever feel like you’re speaking different languages? That’s where love languages come in!
Figure out how you both give and want to receive love.
Is it words of affirmation? Leave cute sticky notes around the house.
Is it acts of service? Do hubby’s laundry or surprise him by doing his least favorite chore.
Is it physical touch? Hold hands more, give extra hugs.
It’s not about grand romantic gestures. Small, consistent efforts in your partner’s love language can make a big, huge difference too. Keep it light and have fun with it!
Quality Time Together
Date night doesn’t have to be fancy, folks! Be creative with your quality time!
A picnic in the living room after the kids are in bed? Try out a new hobby together, like salsa dancing or cooking classes?
Have a family game night. Nothing is more fun than a good ol’ fashioned Monopoly battle!
And don’t overlook the little things. Sharing a cup of coffee in the morning or a quick walk around the block can be just as special as a big night out.
The main thing is to be present and focused on each other. Put those phones away and really be present!
Communication After Kids
Honest to goodness, talking about anything other than the baby poop and soccer practice can be hard. But keeping that open communication is so important for a happy and healthy relationship too.
Make time each day to really connect with each other. Ask about dreams, fears, and everything in between.
Be honest about your needs and listen without judgment when your partner shares theirs. It’s totally okay to admit that parenting and relationship can be hard sometimes!
Play the “highs and lows” game at dinner. Share the best and worst moments of your day. It’s a fun way to connect and show support.
Keeping the Romance Sizzling
Bringing that romance back after kids isn’t impossible. With a little effort and creativity, you can keep those flames of passion burning bright.
Spontaneous Romantic Gestures
Surprise your hubby with little acts of love. Leave sweet notes in random places, like in your husband’s car or in your partner’s lunchbox. Send a flirtatious text during the day.
Keep it light and have fun with it!
Bring home their favorite dessert or cook their favorite meal. These little surprises show you’re thinking of them and can bring back that lovin’ feeling.
And don’t overlook physical touch! A quick hug, kiss, or back massage can do wonders. Hold hands while watching TV or cuddle up close in bed.
Date Night Magic
Regular date nights are a must for keeping that romance alive.
Make time for sex life just the two of you, away from the kids and responsibilities.
Try new things together:
Take a cooking class
Go dancing
Have a picnic in the park
Try an escape room
Mix it up with stay-at-home dates, too. Put the kids to bed early and enjoy:
Candlelit dinner
Movie night with popcorn
Couples’ game night
Stargazing in the backyard
The main thing is focused on spending time alone together, away from distractions.
Flirting Like We Just Met
Bring back that new-daddy-scratches-you-up-and-down-and-makes-you-feel-giddy feeling. Flirt with your husband like you’re trying to woo him all over again.
Praise them sincerely. Notice the little things—like their new haircut or how hot they look in those pair of jeans. Use cute nicknames or inside jokes that are just between the two of you.
Get a little touchy-feely with subtle contact. Place a hand on their back, play footsie under the table, or hug for a little longer than usual.
Send flirtatious texts or leave sexy notes for them to find. Build anticipation throughout the day until you’re together again.
Maintaining the Couple Identity
Keeping your relationship strong while raising kids is so important! It’s all about finding that balance between family time and couple time.
Individual Space and Hobbies
You both need your own interests to stay happy as a person and a sex partner.
It’s different story also totally normal and okay to do your own thing sometimes! Maybe you’re a yoga mom and hubby is a woodworking dad. That’s awesome!
Take turns watching the kids so you can both have and spend some me-time. It’s not selfish—it’s necessary! When you come back together, you’ll have fun stories to share and feel refreshed.
Encourage each other in your individual pursuits. It’s a great way to show love and support!
Common Interests and Activities
You guys need to share some likes to keep your relationship breathing new life! Why not try something entirely new together?
Dancing is such a fun way to reconnect. Sign up for a class and practice your moves at home after the kids are in bed. It’s romantic and a great workout!
Movie nights, book clubs, or cooking classes are awesome, too.
The main and first thing, is to choose activities you both enjoy.
Keep dating each other, even if it’s just at home with the kids. Regular date nights can help you stay in love and keep that spark of romance alive!
Cultivating a Positive Home Environment
A happy home is so important for rekindling romance. Small acts of kindness and appreciation can create a loving atmosphere that brings couples closer together.
Practicing Gentleness and Gratitude
Begin each day with a positive attitude. Give your partner a warm hug or kiss in the morning. Leave sweet love notes around the house—on the bathroom mirror, in their lunch bag, or on the pillow. These little gestures show you’re thinking of them.
Make it a point to say “thank you” for the little things. Did hubby take out the trash? Thank him! Did your partner cook dinner? Show your appreciation. Gratitude goes a long way in creating a positive atmosphere at home.
Try to use kind words, and small gestures even when you’re frazzled. Take a deep breath before reacting to frustrations. A soft tone can turn tantrums into teaching moments.
Creating a Happy Home Base
Make your home a place of joy and laughter. Put on upbeat music while you do chores together. Dance around the kitchen while cooking dinner. Silly moments are the best!
Create cozy nooks for snuggles and conversations. A plush corner with pillows is perfect for intimate chats. Turn the TV off sometimes and just be present with each other.
Plan fun family activities that bring everyone together.
Game nights, backyard picnics, or living room fort-building create happy, healthy memories. When kids see mom and dad having fun, it boosts the whole family’s mood.
Remember, strong marriages make strong families. Prioritize couple time, even at home. A 10-minute chat after the kids are in bed can help you stay connected.
Dealing With Challenges Head-On
Bringing back that sense of romance takes work, but it’s so worth it! Let’s get real about dealing with those tough spots in your relationship after kids.
Addressing Emotional Disconnect
Do you and hubby feel like you’re speaking different languages lately?
You’re not alone! Emotional unavailability sexual intimacy can creep up on even the strongest couples.
Try this: Make time for a feelings check-in each day.
No phones, no kids, just the two of you. Share one high and one low from your day.
It’s amazeballs how this little habit can bring you closer!
Feeling adventurous? Write love notes and hide them in random places.
A sweet surprise in a lunchbox or sock drawer can warm hearts and bring giggles.
Remember, it’s okay to ask for help.
A therapy session or chat with a trusted friend can work wonders.
Rekindling When Times Get Tough
Parenting can be overwhelming, but tough times don’t have to extinguish that romance. Strong marriages weather storms together!
Try these ideas to stay connected:
Take on a home project together (hello, DIY date night!)
Start a two-person book club (racy novels optional)
Plan a weekly at-home “date” after the kids are in bed
Celebrate your victories. Did you both make it through a horrific toddler tantrum? High five and snuggle time!
Laugh together, even when things are messy. A pillow fight or silly dance-off can turn a tantrum into a teaching moment.
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